The Most Difficult Decision of Our Marriage

Posted by Kim Meyer

We are Clayton & Kim Meyer from Edmond, Oklahoma and our family is 2 ½ years into a journey of adoption. God has given us a passion and purpose to offer love and hope to the lost and forgotten of the world. Very early in our dating relationship, we shared a passion for orphans and we both wanted to adopt a child from an under-resourced country someday.

Over the last 13 ½ years of marriage, Kim's had six miscarriages between God graciously blessing us with two healthy kids, Jett (5) and Keira (3). God used that painful season to guide Kim into writing a miscarriage reading plan for the Bible app.

We began our adoption planning to adopt one Haitian boy between two and five years old. On June 3, 2015, God interrupted our journey with His surprise assignment. Kim saw a photo of two brothers who were on a waiting child list. As soon as she saw this photo, she knew that they were our sons. We’ve seen many photos and videos of orphans, but none had ever had this effect on us. Adopting one child from Haiti would be challengingbut adopting two seemed impossible.

We prayed and fasted over the most difficult decision of our marriage. We have young children and the thought of bringing older boys into the home was scary. While all of that was happening, our Lifegroup was reading the book You and Me Forever by Francis Chan. God used that book to have us ask ourselves the hard question, “why not adopt two older boys?”

Over the next three months, our home study was amended for two boys aged 10 and 11. Four weeks later, we received a call from our adoption agency asking if we would consider adopting the boys’ older brother (15), who was about to age out of the adoption system. We spent many weeks praying and seeking godly wisdom. We decided to live for eternity, not temporary pleasures. We knew that God was asking us to live out our faith by saying yes to all three brothers!

Our home study was amended yet again this time for three boys. Because our paperwork was submitted before our oldest turned 16, we have until his 18th birthday to complete the adoption.

Any day now, our phone will ring with the exciting news that we have the official referral and can travel to meet our new sons. We’re so excited for this next step and are relying on God to provide all we need. Our extremely generous Lifegroup has been so supportive. They’ve organized two garage sales, hosted a fundraiser, and contributed over 40% of the funds to date.

We have committed to serve God through adoption. That doesn’t mean we’re not scared or nervous, but it does mean we trust God with our future. We genuinely appreciate the godly leadership from Pastor Craig and our Campus Pastor, Chris Beall, that motivated our family to be the church.

The King will reply, ‘I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.’ Matthew 25:40

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